Staying positive

By AMANDA, care partner

I was scared for my husband when he was diagnosed, but at the same time, in our relationship, I always felt like I needed to be the strong person, the stable person who is here for him through good times or bad times. I supported him like that throughout his hockey career, trying to be there for him through the wins and the losses. He had to travel so much then, and I was always around to support him and take care of the girls. This is no different. So my initial reaction to his diagnosis was to tell him that we’re here together and we’ll work through it together. 

There were obviously a lot of questions that went through my head, and there were a lot of ups and downs. He was constantly asking me, “What if you’re stuck taking care of 2 girls plus me?” “What if I can never play hockey again?” 

But I just felt like I needed to be strong and positive because if I didn’t, I saw how the family could struggle.

I feel that, if you’re not in a positive mindset, stress can easily come on. So I try to turn negatives into positives. When we had to go to New York to see an MS specialist and Bryan was sad about it, I said, “Why don’t we bring our whole family and we can spend a day or two in New York? We never get to do that because you’re always playing hockey.” So instead of making it a trip because he has relapsing MS, we made it a family trip instead.

Amanda's experience is unique, and yours might be different.